WARNING. This may hurt some of you.
A friend in need is a friend indeed.
I heard that friendship is an important thing if you wanna go through this life relatively unscathed (safe, for all you moronic readers). But are there any true friends? Is there someone who would you sacrifice something for? The answer is NO. Everyone wants more, be it money, power, sex, or anything else you can think of.
I thought I had to be someone like this - a friend of all and a friend for all. But a one-way friendship is no friendship at all. Trust should be important, but too much trust is equal to being gullible. And I tended to give a little too much trust.
I really hate this.
Recently, I heard something like this : There are no friends in life, only acquaintances. I am certain that this is right. I have a lot of the latter, but few of the former. Need I call my so-called friends, they are always busy or just don't wanna talk. I have a test for these friends. And they always failed - I don't give any sign of life for a very long time and I wait to see if they will be looking for me.
I am surrounded by perpetual darkness and all I can see is a far-away light. All I need is a guide.
1 comment:
Friendship is not an aprioric concept. In order to evaluate people's beliefs regarding friendship, you need a reference system. Hence, this system is people themselves. In other words, it is a matter of personality, education, background, mentality, culture and all the other bricks that are laid down at the foundation of human character. The way people relate to this matter (aka friendship) is not universal, but individual. Human nature is self-centered and selfish, even narcissistic often, so it becomes hard for some of us to look after the OTHER's well-being, detached from our OWN interest and goals. This is where the education should intervene.
Unfortunately, in an ill society like ours, where moral standards are being laughed at and kindness is not only forgotten, but also mistaken for weakness, friendship is often associated with "acquaintances". This is because, alienated by the grief for money, power, prestige or social status, or maybe just the fear of losing precious time, people concentrate more on themselves and tend to perceive others only as means of reaching own personal goals.
TIME is MONEY, and FRIENDS are THIEVES of TIME. This is the capitalist approach. Not only friendship, but also many other traditional moral values are endangered nowadays.
In conclusion, your point is quite accurate unfortunately. If you can say you have 1 friend, you are a lucky man. In order to avoid dissapointment one must filter the people around, as trust is hard to gain and easy to loose. And you can foretell who you can rely on as friend by one criteria: the people who have the patience to know you and listen, not hear, to what you have to say. Friends are the ones who you can count on, even if you do not talk for months. It is a matter of attitude.
So don't despair my friend, there are still people out there who share the "old-fashion" beliefs in friendship. You just have to look closer.
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